Friday, July 21, 2017

I loved the you I thought I knew
The one I imagined being with me
Laughing, flirting, eyeing me
Yeah, that you
The you I opened up to
Gave my entire heart to
Just hoping one day I'd legitimately get yours too
The you I gave my body to
And in the midst of it all
You answer to her
Responded to her call
Told me to wake up
I heard you loud and clear
Stopped my lovemaking
You paused your lust aching
I heard it all
And right there
Crouched low
I kept the tears at bay
We continued
But I was never the same
My face I saved
Did you even notice?
Did you even care?
I was made privy to the skills you possess
Your whereabouts you would "finesse"
And when you finally left
Tears fell for what will never be
The guy I thought I knew
Never really existed for me

~July 21, 2017

Written by Kesh
(c) 2017 Nixrises All Rights Reserved

Friday, June 16, 2017

Connection

"A connection?" you ask. What is that like?
So have a seat.
Get comfortable.
I would like to school you right.
After I say all that I say
Be easy
Don't want you to take flight

I want to know the real YOU
To understand your plight
My purpose is to give you all of me
And to give it to you right
Come here, my love
I may nibble
But remember not to bite
You and me together?
I think I just might
Not what you had in mind
Not quite
My desire for you progressed rapidly
Expedite
Not wanting you to hit it and igg me
Fly-by-night
"Stay with me," "Never leave me"
Always in sight
Because you care,  you'd still be there
No invite
Lay me down
Go to town
It's wet, it's tight
Tender kisses
Early morn
Midnight
Dark room
Blinds open
Sex by moonlight
You thrust, tug and slap
No more Mr. Polite
But the connection was more than just our bodies
Unite
I can write down my feelings repeatedly
Black and white
They still will never convey what I feel
Outright
You can't fathom how you invade my thoughts
Incite
Awakened sexuality
Heightened arousal
Ignite
Let's bring it down a few degrees
Fahrenheit
You're my baby and I'm your babe
Requite
I pray for you like I do for me
Acolyte
I shudder at the thought of losing you
Finite
This sexy, charming, intelligent man
Erudite
I want you all to myself
I recite
Want to shout it as we walk through the mall
Limelight
Proud to have you holding my hand
Delight
Loving that you love me back
Hug me tight
A future connected to you seems
Dynamite
When 2 lovers have what we have
It will always be alright

- June 16, 2017
Written by Kesh
(c) 2017 Nixrises All Rights Reserved

Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Just We


I need you to be with me
No implications
No commitments
More than us
Just we
Visibly
Taking each other to new heights
Since "we're grown"
And I don't bite
Unless you want me to...
Mutual attraction to one another
Yes, I find quite new
My interest
I don't reciprocate
Too much I've been through
And here I am confronted by wiles of you
The things you say
The things you do
My thighs you "want to use as earmuffs"
Clever
I want you to use them too
"Thicker than oatmeal"
I see you like my size
With our creativity and yearning
I'm sure you will rise
Our final destination will be one for the books
Wishing this lesson will be about more than just looks 
See, your words and your gaze is what got me hooked
My walk and my a*s
Maybe that's what made you look
But after my biennium mistake
You really make me wonder
Could you be the one? 
A keeper?
Am I falling for you off of words?
Can the game get a little bit deeper?
I keep telling myself
My man crush can't be true
But here I am 
Daydreaming 
Writing
And craving for you
Memorializing where we are today
Projecting on where I'd like us to be
Just you and me
Me and my bae
More than us
Just we



- May 28, 2017
Written by Kesh

(c) 2017 NixRises All Rights Reserved

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Sunday, May 10, 2015

Dead To Me

Enamored from the start
Bright eyes
Chocolate skin
Blemish free
You convinced me you were the one for me
Muscular thighs
Legs that ran miles
Rubber to the ground
Cautious, like a lost puppy
Love can now be found
All your tales of woe
Made me want to protect
Your heart
Your mind
Your body
Your love
I vowed never to neglect
But little did I know you weren't there yet
And never would be
At least, not for me
Every lie
Every false alibi
Little did I know
It would kill a piece of me
Of my soul
Of my being
As you tossed yourself out into the world for the taking
The elder said you were a man in the making
But she falsified
As you lied
Wearing a mask of love was an excellent disguise
With every text
Every social declaration
Every email
Every list
Filled with names of your “friends”
But really your conquests
All the while
Remaining in an eyes-of-God vow
There comes a time
When the strongest person is made weak
The straw maintains it strength
As the back,
No longer tough like its physique,
Becomes damaged
Becomes broken
My time, energy
My love
Was stolen
Space taken
When you should have been replaced
In my anger
I've killed you a thousand times
Murdered your words
Those that promised to never hurt me

DEAD

Stabbed your eyes
Those that looked me in mine

And lied

And lied

And lied

You cried
I cried
Then you lied some more

DEAD

Burned your hands
Those that wiped away my tears
After you looked me in my eyes and lied
Promising to never hurt me

DEAD

Visible to the naked eye
To the world you exist
But in my heart your tombstone rests


Written: May 19, 2014
Kesh


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Friday, September 19, 2014

Being Me



Will you look for me?
As I move slowly through the storm
Will you wait for me?
As the rain comes
Will you be there?
With outstretched arms
Ready to enclose me tightly
Stifling my shivers
Keeping me nestled and warm
Will you love me?
With my tear-stained face
Laugh lines from smiles long faded away
Forehead plastered with wrinkles of worry
Happiness so out of place
Or will you fault me for being me?


-Sept 19, 2014
Written by Kesh

(c) 2014 NixRises All Rights Reserved

Monday, June 16, 2014

What Is a "Real Man?" How Do We Women Know?

So I have decided to take a walk on the wild side by tackling an age old question that might spark a lot of negativity and controversy from those who either do not fit the bill or are nervous they do not fit the bill.  Let me first say that to those "real men," I applaud you to the ends of the Earth. We women are not easy creatures and it is easy for us all to fall prey to our negative emotions and therefore, act in a way that is out of character. Trust me, as a woman, I have been there. Negative acts or emotions does not make you any less than your mature side. The question is: "What do you do after you fall prey to your emotions?" What do you do after you succumb to a weakness? Is this an ongoing occurrence? How do you (question to the men) treat a woman (your girlfriend, your wife) in those cases?

I want to tackle these and other questions and get the opinion of others in an attempt to find out if there are "real men" out there or if it is a lost cause trying to find a man like our grandfathers were...you know, those old school men who possessed certain qualities that screamed to a woman " I HAVE A MAN!" I'm not referring just the acts of chivalry, but also qualities like: honesty, loyalty, respect, logic, possessing an ongoing relationship with the Lord, cooking skills and above all else,  makes sure his woman is secure in every sense of the word, just to name a few.

Many female friends of mine are either with guys who some label as "losers;" guys who are selfishly methodical opportunist (you will meet those types later), pathological liars to themselves and others, abusive and just unforgiving hypocritical beings. I can count on one hand guys who have qualities that I prefer and it is sad; however, and call me optimistic, I still believe there are some "real men" out there.I'm sure I sound like the female character in any Disney fairy tale when I say this, but "There has to be! There just has to be some real men out there Mr. Scratch-n-sniff!" I am hoping the stats of those females in my circle, and extended circle, are wrong and that I can be the one to show them that "men" DO exist and are not just in the Harlequin books one may read.
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What Is a "Real Man?"

Over the course of time, I asked a few of my female friends to tell me some qualities of "real men," and I received the following responses:
  • "A guy who can cook better than me."
  • "Real men are honest and loving."
  • "He can throw down in the bedroom!"
  • "He's Christian."
  • "A guy who is loyal, respectful, hard-working."
  • "A real man has a spiritual side, may not be overly religious but does have a relationship with the Lord."
  • "For God's sake, he is SANE!"
  • "Faithful and true."
  • "Protects his woman and children."
  • "Does not have PMS [pre-male syndrome]"
These were the majority of the answers I received and most contained some form of all of the above. As I posed the same question to myself, I must agree that some of the above are on my list as well. I am; however, somewhat flexible. For example, I can do without a guy who can "cook better than me," but should be open to learning together. Whether he can cook or not does not determine if he is a "real man," in my book, but it surely would be nice to come home to a meal that I have not slaved over. I totally agree with a man having qualities like honesty, an ongoing relationship with God, being protective of his family, loyalty, faithfulness, respectfulness and being hard-working. These are strong qualities that makes a male very attractive and worthy of the "real man" status. For me, being able to "throw down in the bedroom" also does not make or break who he is.  If he lacks that lion, 'king of the jungle' status, then that can be worked on as long as he does not have a weak ego. What I mean by that is, and I know of this personally, is that some guys feel less than such when a woman makes suggestions or requests new styles. Instead, they would rather continue the same, old boring way and then later try new things with some random chick on the side, you will meet this person later as well. He may even have the nerve to throw up in their woman's face how good the next female is when you know you were faking it NOT to bruise their sensitive ego for years because you were bored out of your mind. Seriously?!  Okay, I digressed. My whole point is that, for me, bedroom skills is at the bottom of my list.

For the most part, I consider myself easy to please. Am I easy,"no," but I do feel that some things are not worth dealing with relationship strife over. If I am secure in my relationship, he will be treated like the King he is; however, infidelity is a definite deal breaker! I ask certain questions in my relationship. If I get that vibe that something is amiss, I am that woman who will ask are you "screwing the next" on the side or if you want to continue what we have created. I will let you know you have no handcuffs on you so you are free to go, but if you tell me you want to stay I will be looking at your actions...all of them. If your actions don't match up, we have a problem. You WILL hear my mouth, that is...if I care enough. This goes into my "real man" status because for me, a "real man" would be on his "yay" or "nay" depending on how he really feels.

To this, I have often been told to not ask a question that I did not want the answer to. Looking back, I remember being told this from someone who always had something to hide. Honestly, I love honesty. It is freeing. And while it may hurt the others at times, it is worth it to everyone involved. I'd rather the truth over a beautiful lie any day of the week. I can thank a guy who tener cojones to tell me "I don't want to be with you," as opposed to one who acts like he does because he needs a place to stay or knows I'm a good mother.

My definition of a "real man" is one who knows these things. He will do his best to protect the hearts and feelings of those around him by maintaining his integrity so he is not in a position where he has to break a woman's heart or hurt her feelings, as in the case of infidelity. Now, while that sounds all good, some good guys may actually fall victim to a case of the oopsies. He goofed, he screwed up. While it breaks a woman's heart to learn her love has been unfaithful and dishonest, a "real man" will come clean because he was raised to "man up" and own his mistakes. He recognizes his responsibility to put it on the table, has an idea what he may face, but respects her enough to give her the choice of choosing if she would like to work it out. He makes a conscious effort to not repeat the behavior that caused his mate so much pain. Seeing her pain hurts him because he has a conscience.  A "real man" doesn't blame his mate for his indiscretions! Sheesh, we can barely get some guys to take out the garbage, therefore, we should NEVER be blamed for him giving his body part to another!

How Do We Women Know?

The lack of many solid examples in the circle of my female friends and my extended circles are disheartening; however, I believe that there are ways a woman will know if she has a "real man." I think the surefire way to tell is in how secure she feels in the relationship role. This goes back to the 'trust your gut' teachings we women were taught when it comes to relationships. This also goes back to what I mentioned earlier. A woman wants to be able to boast about her man if not outwardly, because there are haters out there, inwardly and she knows deep down she is his one and only. She wants to know that God-forbid if something happened to her, he will be able to hold it down and their children will not be eating McDonald's every night. She wants to trust that when he says he is going out with the guys, he will not do anything to betray her and come in with a sob story. A woman doesn't want to give up the security she had just to get with someone, have no security and realize he thinks that he "upgraded" her. That's ludicrous. She wants to know he will 'fight fair' and not go below the belt because he is mad. He will listen to her and genuinely feel remorseful for her pain. He will make efforts to rectify situations not just run on emotions and bump his gums.

A woman wants to know that she is his one and only. No other woman should get the perks that are reserved for the woman that shares his name. This is not to say that he cannot be a 'good guy' and help out those in need, but a real man must know the difference. Bottom-line, he shows he's a man! His actions will either make her feel secure in the relationship, or leave her questioning him on some "Are you sleeping with someone else?" Sounds familiar? A real man will leave his ego with his friends, and know that above all else, his wife is not his enemy but his partner and best friend. It is all in his actions. If he should stray, she will know because we are always watching! But to a real man, this is not a concern because he is always on point.




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Saturday, June 14, 2014

The Real Enemy

In our life, every choice we makes plants a seed of consequence. The key is always to choose logically and wisely and above all else, learn from your mistakes.Those are your lessons to break the circle of your pain.

Tears and pain
Anger that cannot be contained
Sanity unsuccessfully trying to maintain
I'm my own worse enemy

Negative emotions taking over
So easy to call
Can't find the love
That was to be there through it all
Outrage over my life
Power I turned over was my downfall

Trusted a man who should have not been
Now I remain broken
Life forcefully bent
Struggled to gain independence
Only to relinquish it
Now the key
Is just to own me
No longer will I be
My own worse enemy


Image from savethemarriage.com

- June 14, 2014
Written by Kesh

(c) 2014 NixRises All Rights Reserved